By defending myself in such a way as to avoid conflict at all, I am afraid to do many things, not least asking anyone out. My paranoia of asking anyone out has three levels:
- Will I be laughed at at the time?
- Will people continue to be mean to me and tease me about it for weeks/months to come?
- Will others refuse me on grounds I asked someone else out first?
Starting with the first, people around me will only care whatsoever if I make a deal out of it. If I don't, nobody will care.
A longer term reaction is harder to judge: the three likely possibilities are teasing me of who it is I asked (regardless of who it is), calling it sweet, or not caring whatsoever.
Finally, the only people who'd refuse me because I had asked someone else out first would be someone mad enough to fancy me, though likely only for a short time after I asked anyone else out.
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foxxyz says…
Edit comment — August 22, 2009 21:12:38+01:00
It seems to me that pouring one's feelings out into the world like this demands infinitely more courage than the task of asking anyone out.
Yes, I know. Old post. Regardless.